Advice for dating someone with a kid
Given these statistics, if you are a single adult, it would not be surprising that you find yourself attracted to someone who has children.
Census, in 2010 there were close to 12 million single-family households in America.
This is important because you cannot separate the parent from the children. Often, the attention, time and resources that a parent devotes to his/her children can make one feel jealous or resentful. Single parents are likely to set basic boundaries with regards to their children. Sometimes when we meet the kids we want to make a good impression.
If you are dating a parent, their children will be part of the picture at some point. Are you self-assured and independent enough to accept that the children of your date will be the priority? These boundaries can range from time devoted to children, to dietary/nutrition concerns, to when late night guests are acceptable. If you are dating a single parent and your relationship has progressed to the point where you spend time together with the kids, notice how your date parents, the kids’ behaviors, and the family culture. Maybe we try too hard: excessively friendly, overly generous, or uncomfortably upbeat. It is natural that children may be somewhat leery of a new person in the mix.
Depending on their background, kids may be fearful of a newcomer in their midst. Simply understand these feelings may exist and that it is not about you. Children can add a lot of delight and gratification to a relationship.
For some of you, the risk is worth it; for others, it’s not.
Prior to meeting this new person, did you know that you wanted kids?
You get to go to cool places like the Science Centre and Canada’s Wonderland. You get to watch awesome kids’ movies like Monsters Inc. But also consider the ways this will affect your relationship with your partner.
Particularly if they have full custody, their ability to be spontaneous will be greatly reduced.