Too ugly for online dating
some ugly truths we must all be aware of and conquer before we embark on a journey to find “the one.” This is one of the biggest truths about online dating nobody wants to admit.From childhood, men have been brought up to be fierce competitors, to opt for the most risky jobs, to put themselves on the line, to accept rejection “like a man” and to always make the first move.And when 80% of the messages are either, you can’t really blame them for not responding to most messages—even if you personalize your mails.The fact of the matter is that women receive far too much “unwanted” attention.While it does require less effort for women to get responses from the opposite sex, they’re not really in the best position, as they have to dig through a lot of junk before they find any substance.
This is partly because they have unusual features that may divide opinion, but also because men think there is less competition While Holly Willoughby (left) is often described as beautiful, Sarah Jessica Parker (right) tends to get a varied response.Listening to her experiences makes me want to set something on fire.Christian has seen profiles declaring that they're interested in every race except black women, and someone once told her "her kind" wasn't "good enough to date." Another guy said he'd "always wanted to try a black girl" because rumor had it we're like "sexual toys." "I cried that night [after I got that message]," says Christian.They see my delight in swiping, an activity most of them find boring or even disheartening at this point, as refreshing.But I've never actually been on a dating app as myself, a black woman. Yes, online dating seems fun from where I'm standing, but I think doing it as a woman of color would damage my faith in humanity.